Sunday, 20 January 2013

Posh peas

In my brief but intensive 2-year study in parenting I have arrived at the conclusion that when it comes to children, it's all about picking your battles.

It is so easy just to spend all day shouting at your kid(s) but is that nice for anyone? No. One gets such a sore throat. So what I have ended up doing is spending all day wondering whether I should make a fuss about this or that thing that Kitty is doing or just let go. I don't always get it right. But neither do I end up shouting very much.

Here are some things that I have decided not to fight her about:

1 Drawing on the walls
2 Throwing marbles
3 Covering herself in fingerpaint when we are fingerpainting
4 Wanting to stand up while her nappy is being changed
5 Playing on an unattended iPad
6 Eating an unattended eye-level chocolate or biscuit
7 Finishing food

I even often, unbidden, let her behave like a complete animal, such as this evening, when she ate her dinner, standing up, straight from the pan with a wooden spoon:

Here are some things that I am a massive horrible strict bitch about at all times:

1 Bedtime
2 Physical aggression towards any Apple product
3 Pabbling her fingers in her water glass
4 Smooshing her hands into her food
5 Charging into the road
6 Snatching things off children we don't know. With the children of friends, it's basically every toddler for himself

Cooking is often about picking your battles, too. When asked about catering, I am always preaching on about making something simple that isn't going to stress your head, like spaghetti bolognese  or shepherd's pie or toad in the hole. But then whenever we DO have people round, I leave everything to my husband, who makes some giant complicated thing with eight side dishes and all I have to do is the washing up and light some scented candles.

But it means I have come to fear mass catering again. So this weekend, after I had invited Katie Razzall off the Channel 4 news and her terrifically handsome actor husband Oz and their two children round for lunch, I said that I would do the cooking. After consulting this blog for advice, I decided to make a Shepherd's Pie and peas and also Spotted Dog, just because it was so incredibly popular last time I made it. The pudding was the battle bit, but I just bought the custard - Madagascan Vanilla something or other from Waitrose. Delicious.

But I decided that the Shepherd's Pie would also have an element of battle in it - the topping. I insist on a reasonbly time-consuming topping for Shepherd's and Cottage Pie, which involves passing the potatoes through a ricer or a mouli legume, which gives a crunchy sort of rosti top, rather than just mashing it up and spreading it on top.

(Incidentally, my husband had a mouli legume when I moved in, the like of which I had not seen since I last saw one in my mother's house. This was very surprising as he had no cafetiere, or food in the fridge and had long run out of loo roll so there was some kitchen paper in the downstairs bog. He also kept the Flymo in the kitchen. But he had this mouli, some pearl caviar spoons and a £300 Japanese sushi knife. It made no sense.)

I also decided to do battle with the peas. Just boring old peas won't do if you are dishing up such an unglamorous, although delightful, feast as Shepherd's Pie and a suet pudding. So I thought I would do that thing where you tart them up with bacon and onions and cream - and it was absolutely terrific and well worth the fight.

Posh peas
With thanks to Tom Parker Bowles, who's cookbook Let's Eat is brilliant. All this royal in-law puffing is getting a bit suspicious isn't it? As it happens, I can't honestly say I'd turn down a gong, just in case anyone is listening.

Frozen peas (1 ladleful pp)
Frozen baby broad beans (1tbsp pp)
1 packet lardons, or 10 bacon rashers cut up smallish
1 large or two small onions
1 glass of shitty white wine
some cream if you have it
a scattering of chopped mint, if you have it

1 Fry the lardons over a medium heat until coloured.

(If you have been forced, like me, to buy reasonably cheap lardons, they will release the most ghastly amount of dribble and spit - just pour this off, while puckering your face in disgust, so that the lardons don't just steam grimly in the liquid, and carry on frying until done.)

2 Add the chopped onions and fry all this up together gently for a good 15 minutes. Add your glass of shitty wine, turn up the heat and bubble down until the bottom of the pan is about 90% dry.

3 Turn the heat down and add about 2 tbsp of cream if you have it.

4 About 10 minutes before you want to eat, add your peas and beans to the onion and bacon mix and cook all this over a medium heat for about 10 mins. Scatter over the optional mint.

Eat, while ignoring the scribble all over the walls.



  1. this sounds dribble-inducingly delicious xx

  2. That pea dish is in the same family as something my Mum used to make as a quick dinner, which involved shallots, Pecorino, lardons and creme fraiche. My student version involved weird Costcutter "bacon" and value cheddar (shitty wine obviously being for drinking and not cooking, even if you'd had to saw the cork off and then strain it through a sieve).

    Buying lardons for the first time rather than dodgy bacon felt like a rite of passage. Still haven't managed to pony up for Pecorino, though.

  3. when my girls were weeny (they're only 9 and 6 now so not massively grown up, though on their way, scarily), I told them that there were only two rules in life: never throw sand and always put the lids back on felt pens. Have spent their entire childhoods, thus far, chucking out dried out felt pens, so have no parenting tips whatsoever. Although haven't had too many beach incidents.

  4. these peas sound great. I totally agree about battle picking - anything else is the way of madness (if you're not there already)

  5. Exactly my parenting philosophy - even down to the irritating water glass thing!

  6. Really glad I found this blog, this made my morning. Very, very funny. And washing up and lighting scented candles is not a task to be underestimated, do you go French Vanilla or Sweet Strawberries? Or are they too much, something neutral like soft blankets? Every candle lighters dilemma.

    The pea recipe also sounds delicious. 5 a day become a whole lot easier when bacon and white wine (be it shitty, or not) are involved.

    Keep posting!

  7. Gave your posh peas to children alongside pheasant goujons - breasts dipped in beaten egg, flour and stale breadcrumbs (unintentionally stale because the loaf had been neglected and ignored by all who had seen it at the bottom of the bread bin) and then pan fried. First meal all three (6, 5 & 3) have ever eaten in its entirety. No food waste. Cost less than £5 to make. Thank you.

  8. Drawing on the walls only starts to be a problem once they learn to spell. 'It wasn't me,'says Sophie, as i look at a row of Sophies all over the back kitchen wall. Hmmmm...

  9. Elizabeth Medovnik21 January 2013 at 17:17

    Lovely to see a photo of Pretty Kitty! Mimi hasn't started drawing on the walls yet but I think she's just waiting until the decorator comes next month to do 4 rooms.

  10. Likewise Martha, I've found several ''Henry wrote this'' messages about the house over the years. He's never blamed for them.
    I've never heard of lardons. I'll have to look up them up. The posh peas sound lovely, but the shepherd's pie? Unbelievably complicated.

  11. Love the second picture very much. Recipe sounds delicious